Soulmates- The Cold, Hard Truth....

Having an esoteric interest in metaphysical topics, I can't help but be a tad bit cynical about the incredibly fluffy and unrealistic expectations that our culture puts on soulmates. In reality, soulmate relationships most often present us with the most difficult lessons we wish to experience and learn. More often than not - it's not an easy road.

There are energetically three types of soulmate connections. The first and most complacent is the Kindred Spirit connection. This is a partner who initially provides you with a comforting familiarity. There are no weak knees or fireworks going on, but it's not quite a friendship either. Often we manifest a kindred soulmate connection in order to rest and heal ourselves. The relationship is quite delightful in the realm that there is little confrontation and a deep respect for each other, which is certainly beneficial.  You are not going to have the slightest clue about how to deeply relate because most often you are polar opposites. This is a great relationship for people who want a calm, predictable lifestyle. In this case the relationship is a smashing success. But often the purpose of the relationship is served once one partner has rested and feels the need to embrace a passionate lifestyle. This relationship just simply can't take you there, but whatever you do, don't choose your mirror soul connection to overcompensate for this.
Mirror Soul connections generally start out with that startling familiarity, but in this case accompanied by a consuming, fitful surge of passion. And please, please treasure these times because soon it's going to lead down a spiraling path of disintegration of awe and bewilderment. This is the love/hate relationship, the on again - off again love affair, the lover that you can't live with and can't live without. The people who marry and divorce five times over to the same person are most definitely engaged in a mirror soul connection. These can be rough deep waters my friends. Proceed with caution.
The purpose of the mirror soul connection literally serves as a mirror. The connection reflects back to you the things you love and hate about yourself, but generally in our selfish tendencies to blame, we project the good and bad onto the other person involved. Not that it's wrong as we are enabled to learn a great deal in such a predicament as this....it's just not always pleasant, or it's insanely sweet and pleasant. In the end we all desire to love ourselves so we can freely love others and mirror connections emanate this.
Good enough, and some people choose to hash out a lifetime of misery with this person, and that is certainly their perrogative. Highly spiritually healthy and sophisticated souls can make a beautiful connection of it, but those are far and few between, no matter how grand you perceive yourself to be....it rarely works.
I guess in some odd rational way it is a favorable choice to stay with this person because you'll NEVER encounter a more intense attraction in it's purest state, or experience more lows in it's more miserable capacities. But ultimately if you wish to evolve as a human being it's rationally more productive to find a way to move on. Absolutely all of you who have experienced a mirror soul connection know exactly who that person is - it is that person you can never truly get over. Over all logic and reason they have that way of getting to you....so you know what - don't even try (you know, like Hinder when he wrote Lips of an Angel...mirror soul connection!). Let it go to the best of your ability and move on. Don't try to figure it out as you won't be able to. Instead just allow for it to be a part of your personal truth - enjoy it for what it is... a sweet mystery that is better to be not fully engaged. In the end it's really not so bad when life is bittersweet. It can feel kinda damn good at times if you allow it to. Mirror soul connections create a beautiful portrait of our ability to accept the cycles of life that bring us closer to self realization.
Now the......TWIN FLAME, ohhh my. The thought of it could get anyone in a dither...but simmer down friends. As astounding as the potential for a beautiful experience in a lover can be in a twin flame connection - we must remain realistic. First of all these connections are extremely rare. Secondly in our broken state of collective humanity, only about 50% of them reach their full potential or even work out at all.
There is for sure some delicate intricate balance of the female and male energies that can be achieved deliriously in a love affair, something which the twin flame connection can provide, as RARE RARE RARE as it is. Just take a deep breathe and understand that right now it's not likely gonna happen and it's truly okay on a profound spiritual level. But if you are blessed with such an event, please note that this profound beauty can only be achieved through both parties being personally engaged in their own state of personal healing, self love and enlightenment. Sometimes one person is ready and the other person is not, or both parties are just not ready for this beauty. Life is not about things always lining up or making sense and that in itself is perfect in it's own way. There's no easy way to explain it. But if one longs for such an encounter the first step of action to take is not to seek your twin flame, but instead heal yourself, love yourself exquisitely and if it's meant to it will come to you and if that person is not ready for you now, it truly wasn't meant to be. We have the capacity to manifest whatever we need to experience in every given moment. We experience what best enables our own growth. If we choose not to grow than of course you have to learn it over and over again...as we all innately wish to evolve.
In the end Twin Flame connections are manifested for the purpose of being ready on your journey to experience exquisite beauty in a lover. In fact this energy vibrates on a pure spiritual level in it's purest state. Healthy twin flame connections allow for lovers to give and receive freely to each other, see the divine beauty in the other and love them for the sheer joy of it, instead of with unrealistic expectations. It is something better to sense than to describe as words function on a lower energetic level.
Maybe that's why some people make it their mission to find their twin flame, because it is so profound....when unfortunately for them, pursuing the unknown lover opposed to themself only muddles with it, only compromises the potential of the connection. In fact, in this state you most likely will not even recognize them. There's no familiarity drawing you into a lesson. It comes from a state of openess to life and being able to catch wind of a mystery, and being drawn into it. It's the only way to recognize a twin flame. It won't strike you as making perfect sense in a concrete way.
Some encounters serve the purpose in that you are ready to see a glimmer of it's potential, which serves many valuable lessons of it's own.  In these encounters you can still possess the freedom to have a profound and beautiful life soley from your own personal resources and that in reality you can't depend on any one person to fulfill you.  As well, you are able to gain a stronger faith in the perfection of a deeper plan than outward circumstances. It is in that freedom that one is ready to experience a Twin Flame connection. Let your life be beautiful in everyway.
Let's get practical now. Let's strategize. For the most part, soulmate connections are not what we chalk them up to be. They come into our life for a reason and we should embrace that. But ultimately it's healthier to keep the slate clean. To embrace a deeper objectivity to personal growth that doesn't need to begin with a state of familiarity.
One of the most meaningful love affairs you can have with another, is the one that doesn't begin with that instant jolt but maybe a soft intrigue...or maybe just a sense of peace in that pursuit. Something that you don't go into with the excess baggage that soul connections generally endow. Be open to someone new, someone who you can provide you with that blank canvas. It might take a bit more time initially, but in the end it can develop into something even more intense and consistently beautiful than a soul connection can provide. Something beautiful and free that can allow your lover to enhance your journey in a more powerful way than a soulmate can. As dreamy and unrealistic as society has made our soulmate connections to be - it's the cold, hard truth.

with care,

 Karla

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